he Cove is a Our Approach to Needs

So many parenting resources miss the mark because they tend to have an either/or approach when it comes to the needs of the parent and the needs of the child. In The Cove, we’re all about both/and. We know that in peer-to-peer relationships, it’s important for everyone to feel seen and validated, so why is it that we expect parents to meet the child's need at the expense of their own? 

What would it be like to live where both your child’s needs matter and your needs matter?  We all get to have a seat at the table.  This is the relational hack that is at the root of success for our children in every relationship - whether it’s social skills on the playground, asking a teacher for support, sibling struggles, future discussions with their boss, and of course, our lifelong relationship with them.

For example, a child may have challenges with brushing teeth because of sensory sensitivity or because of fears of being alone at night.  There are two different needs underneath what can look like the same brushing challenge. Understanding your child's need will influence the heart-centered solution we create together.  We address the underlying need to create stable, solid connection.  And we'll do that in a way that meets your needs.  One of my favorite things is when a Cove member says "Wait, Sonali, but that wouldn't work for me because...".  Why?  Because now we are getting somewhere!  We then explore what other underlying needs the parent has, so that we can find a solution that meets their child's needs and theirs.  

Our Container

The Cove is a year-long hybrid, wrap-around support system.  You don't have a typical kid, so we already know the typical solutions only get you so far.  We've designed this program considering what you need to take your family where you want to go - both group and individual support, a community of parents with highly-sensitive, strong-willed kids that both get you and your child, and a foundations course with tailored-coaching on needs, values, boundaries, and radically-different communication that you will only find here.

I get it.  I was in your shoes and wanted that reassurance that a program would be the thing I needed.  I thought "No, my kid's different.  This is different.  I don't think you get what it's like over here." It sounds like you may be seeking that same guarantee I wanted, especially after trying so many things.  I wish I could say "Yes, your child is different and absolutely this will work" because I care about you getting that sense of ease you want.   And, one of the things you can expect from me and your Cove leaders is openness and honesty.  So, while I'm not able to give a guarantee because we all have unique experences and journeys, I do hope that you feel my wish and desire to support you in getting that ease.  What I can say is that this approach has supported countless families in bringing collaboration, ease and joy to their homes.  What I can say is that your Cove leaders and I are fully committed to supporting you and your family.  What I can express is how much we care about you getting to a space in parenting that you're proud of.  

Think of The Cove like a GPS system.  You type in where you want to go, and then GPS guides you there one manageable step at a time.  If we looked at all the detailed directions at the beginning, we'd get overwhelmed, wouldn't we?  So, in The Cove we focus on one doable step at a time, which allows you to tap into your confidence and how capable you are.  What’s different about The Cove is that it's not about parenting my way, or your mom's way; it's about finding YOUR way.  So, you'll hear me ask after sharing an idea, "How would it feel to try this?" and when you say, "I don't want to do that, Sonali", I respond with, "Awesome.  Now we're getting clearer.  Let's figure out what would feel good for you."  I'm commited to supporting you to show up differently in each small moment in a way that feels easy, fun, and makes a massive impact in the connection you’re experiencing with your child.

First, I want you to know that I hear you, mama.  It can be harder and feel lonelier when you and your partner have different parenting styles.  And, in The Cove we welcome all family dynamics - some of us join calls with our partners, some of us know our spouses wouldn't get this, some of us are solo parenting, some of us are co-parenting.  And if you feel like you and your spouse are on opposite pages here, what you'll learn in The Cove will support you in expressing your values and inquiring about your partner's values in a way Cove members have experienced brings them closer.  What if you could navigate that conflict with your partner in a way that allowed you both to feel understood, valued and empowered?  Parenting is the platform from which we learn these skills and tools, like the SHUAVE process and boundary circles.   We then take these tools and apply them to all relationships - partners, managers, mothers, sisters, co-workers, friends.  

This is a valid concern.  Being on calls regularly and/or engaging in the community is what will give you the most support.

Live Q&A's are the first 3 weeks of the month. They rotate between 10am EST and 8pm EST to ensure members can attend across time zones. There is also a special call for Cove members in Europe/Asia once a month. Here is the current schedule - please convert your time to EASTERN.

Wed 2/1/23 @10am

Wed 2/8/23 @ 8pm

Thurs 2/9/23 @ 5am (that's 10am UK time)

Wed 2/15/23 @ 10am

You can definitely gain a tremendous amount of relief and family connectedness when you join The Cove, even if you can't make the calls.  Members who cannot attend calls do experience huge shifts by engaging in the other available resources (the content, the Facebook group, the monthly check-ins with your Cove leader, and through submitting your questions for the calls and then watching the recording).

Don't worry! They will all be recorded and posted to the group. If you have a question you want answered, you can submit it ahead of time.