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You’re doing everything “right”

so why does it still feel like your life is on hold?

You listen.
You validate.
You try to stay calm.
You’ve learned how to hold space.
And yet

  • Every decision turns into a discussion
  • Emotions dictate the pace of the household
  • Plans get delayed, derailed, or abandoned
  • You feel like you’re constantly explaining, negotiating, or defending
  • And somehow, you’re the one who ends the day exhausted 

If this sounds familiar, it’s not because you’re doing anything wrong.

It’s because calm quietly slips out of the family system when things get hard...even though connection is strong.

 

So now you know connection alone isn't the problem.

That helps to clarify that the solution isn't simply more connection.

Connection answers one essential question:

“Am I loved?”

But there’s another question kids are also silently asking, especially when emotions are big or disagreement shows up:

“Can I rest here, even when things get hard?”

That question isn’t answered by more processing.
Or more explaining.
Or more holding.

It’s answered by an intentional return to saftey, that steadies them, that reassures them all of them is welcome here.  It's the kind that says:
“You don’t have to fight. I’ve got this.”

This isn’t about control.
And it’s not about agreement.

It’s about restoring calm so the whole family can breathe again.

This gets especially hard with sensitive, neurodivergent, and strong-willed kids.

If your child is:

đŸ„șdeeply sensitive
đŸ„șneurodivergent
đŸ„șanxious, depressed, or easily overwhelmed
đŸ„șstrong-willed, perceptive, or emotionally intense

then of course you don’t want to control them.

Many of us grew up with adults who mistook authority for safety:

🙈power over
🙊lack of voice
🙈emotional dismissal

So we swing the other way.

We stay available.
We listen longer.
We explain more.
We hold space...even when it costs us.

And yet, these kids — especially these kids — need to know they have someone to steady them when things get tough.  They need to know someone can help their nervous systems remember safety and calm in the hardest moments.

Because things get hard for these kids more often than for other kids.

This course is for you if


🏠Connection and emotional safety already matter deeply to you
🏠You don’t want to control your child — but you are craving more calm
🏠You’re tired of being questioned, nitpicked, or cross-examined
🏠You feel guilty ending conversations or saying “not now”
🏠Your child’s emotions (or opinions) seem to run the household
🏠You want calm that doesn’t require you to disappear

This is not about fixing kids.

It’s about steadying the family system so everyone can breathe again.

What this course helps you build

This work isn’t about saying the perfect thing.

It’s about learning where to stand....especially when things get heated.

Over 8 weeks, you’ll learn how to:

🏠Stay emotionally available without surrendering your role
🏠End run-on conversations without rupturing connection
🏠Keep moving forward even when your child disagrees, criticizes, or pushes back
🏠Respond to big feelings without putting your life on hold
🏠Create calm in the toughest moments that feels grounded, relational and real

Parents often tell me:

“I finally feel like myself again...and my kids feel steadier too.”

HOW THE COURSE FLOWS
The 5 Disruptors to Calm -- And How Families Regain Their Footing

Calm doesn’t disappear all at once.
It slips in predictable moments.

This course is organized around those moments — so you’re not guessing what to do, but learning how to stay steady when it matters most.

Disruptor #1: When Big Emotions Take Over
(“If I don’t stay with them, I’m abandoning them
”)

You’ll learn how to stay emotionally available without getting pulled off center — and why “holding space” can actually increase dysregulation when it lacks leadership.

We’ll work with:

  • Big feelings that hijack the family
  • Knowing when to stay — and when to pause
  • Guiding emotional expression to what's supportive without rupture
  • Staying connected without putting your life on hold

Disruptor #2: When Everything Feels Urgent
(“We need to talk about this now.”)

Endless debating, negotiating and re-explaining quietly drains calm.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Clarify what’s open for discussion and what's not, with the utmost respect
  • Close conversations without guilt and with deep care, empathy, and kindness
  • Lead the pace of family decisions
  • Protect your time, energy, and nervous system

This is about timing as part of calm, not dismissiveness.

Disruptor #3: When Your Role Gets Questioned
(“Everyone else's parent is
” “Why do you get to decide?”)

This is where many parents quietly lose confidence.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Stay grounded when criticized or judged
  • Respond without justifying or defending
  • Gently re-orient your family to your role without dominance
  • Respond to questioning in ways that end power struggles instead of fueling them

Calm here feels steady, solid and stable.

Disruptor #4: When Intent Replaces Impact
(“I didn’t mean it that way.” "I was just sharing my feelings.")

This is where relationships either fray or deepen.  Here we shift from managing behavior to teaching relationships. 

You’ll learn how to:

  • Help kids notice how their words and actions land
  • Address sarcasm, snark, and sneakiness without shaming
  • Support social awareness and repair
  • Raise kids who can interact well with others even when they don't get their way

This builds trust, and soothes anxiety.

Disruptor #5: When Fairness Becomes the Focus
(“That’s not fair.”)

This disruptor slowly erodes calm over time.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Hold “enough” without equalizing everything
  • Respond to comparisons without defensiveness
  • Lead decisions about time, money, and attention
  • Help kids tolerate disappointment without resentment

This is where families regain ease.

How this fits together

These five disruptors are addressed across three core modules, because calm is tested differently depending on the pressure:

  • Emotional pressure
  • Relational pressure
  • Long-term wear and tear

Over 8 weeks, you’ll learn how to meet these moments with clarity and practice, using language that steadies the family system rather than manages behavior.

So calm doesn’t feel like it can dissolve away or be shaken...
it becomes something you can return to, even on hard days, with just a few words.

WHAT YOU GET

  • 8 LIVE Coaching + Q&A Calls.  One dedicated to each disruptor so that we can dig in deep to the patterns in tough moments. Call times are as follows:

Wednesday, January 14th at 10 am EST/7 am PST/3 pm BST

Wednesday, January 21st at 10 am EST/7 am PST/3 pm BST

Wednesday, January 28th at 10 am EST/7 am PST/3 pm BST

Wednesday, February 4th at 10 am EST/7 am PST/3 pm BST

Wednesday, February 11th at 10 am EST/7 am PST/3 pm BST

Wednesday, February 18th at 10 am EST/7 am PST/3 pm BST

Wednesday, February 25th at 10 am EST/7 am PST/3 pm BST

Wednesday, March 4th at 10 am EST/7 am PST/3 pm BST

  • PLUS 2 Special LIVE Europe/Asia Coaching Calls
       Wednesday, January 21st at 9 am BST/4 am EST/4 pm BKK time
       Wednesday, February 21st at 9 am BST/4 am EST/4 pm BKK time
  • Weekly tools/practices/scripts that will reorient your family back to steady ground
  • PLUS...experience the nurturing feeling of getting to be seen, known and held by a community of deeply caring parents who get what it's like to raise sensitive, strong-willed kids. (This is genuinely immeasurable in value - you'll see!)
  • PLUS...for my fellow carpe diem folks, you'll have full access to all of The Cove and can explore other modules inside The Cove 

 

FAQ

Do I get Lifetime Access to the course? What is The Cove?

The Cove is Forward Together Parenting's signature community of deeply caring parents who get what it's like to raise sensitive, strong-willed kids.

"Calm at Home...Finally!", the 8 week course, will take place inside The Cove, so all live sessions are recorded and hosted inside The Cove.

You’ll also have the option to download the "Calm at Home...FINALLY!" recordings to your own device, so you can keep and revisit the content anytime, even after the course and your Cove access are complete.

While you’re always welcome and encouraged to attend live, this course is intentionally designed to support parents who need flexibility. If you can’t make a session, you’re not behind, and you’re not on your own.

For those who cannot attend live, I encourage you to reach out to me via email or voice message options (Whatsapp, Voxer or FB messenger) or send an email to a Cove Leader. The community can then ask the "well, but" and "what about" questions on your behalf...and what I would also ask is that you message me and "well but" me yourself - this is a genuine ask...sometimes people worry about sending a message or feel shy or feel like the answer is "ok enough" and I'm asking you to please insist on going all in on your question, so we can get to the root of what's disrupting calm in your home. This is especially important for those who cannot attend live so that you feel engaged with the course and the content.

I hope to get to support you inside "Calm at Home...Finally!" if this format and perspective resonate with you and the course is well-timed to support you with what you are struggling with in your family.

Eva, mom of 2 ages 8 and 6

I've been a Cove member for 3 years. During that time, I've grown a Pavlov's response to Sonali. But instead of drooling in anticipation of a treat, when I see her face the thought "My needs matter" pops into my head all by itself and my whole body gives a sigh of relief and immediately feels safe. Because I can be myself, authentic and vulnerable in The Cove. I haven't experienced that anywhere else. I know I can be 100% honest with Sonali because I know and trust deep down in my body that she can process her own emotions. She's the first person who showed me that I can say things to her and not worry about blowback or worry if I am inadvertently hurting her. I experienced for the first time how it can be when I am fully accepted. And The Cove is like a playground for practicing all this with other people. It isn't "just" empathy. I've experienced other communities where there were lots of empathy and endless kind listening and still I felt stuck. In The Cove there's empathy and there's also a movement forward and a work to do. There is a direction (towards making the family unit work for everyone) and gentle guidance that always takes the individual needs into account. I love Sonali's trademark "Well-but me!" after she gives us advice/directions. And I know I can well-but her and keep chipping at it in little steps until I figure out what's the best way forward for me and my unique family. The most important thing I've learned in The Cove is that everyone's needs are important and everyone's needs can be met. Even when the needs are still unknown. It doesn't matter I don't know yet what the need is, I trust we are capable of finding it and meeting it in a way that works for the whole family. Because we are in this together.

Erica, mom of 2 ages 16 and 12

While you taught me countless helpful things in my parenting, the most transformational things that I frequently think about are the concept of crossing myself and not being true to my values by giving in and feeling conflicted about it. I have worked on getting more clear in many areas of my life, but you were the first person to help me put words to that need. As you know, there are always new situations and challenges to navigate, but my daughter is now a straight A student who excels at digital art and our relationship is so much better. The intensity is very different than it was 5 years ago and you really helped me maintain my sanity at a very challenging and intense time.

Parent from 1st cohort of "Calming Your Angry Child" after first Cove Connect Call

Today's call was so special - I felt so held! Each person's question felt so relevant, whether the specific details line up with my circumstances or not, and while I feel like I'm just beginning to get my bearing here, I am very hopeful and aspire for these ways of being and interacting with my kids to become as comfortable as a native language.

Sony, Mama, Family doctor, Therapist, Coach

I am in literal awe at the depth of Sonali’s wisdom and her extraordinary ability to guide parents. I have had the privilege of working with her for a few years now and not only is she an expert on sensitivity, needs and regulation for both parents and children, she is so much more. She is finely attuned and aware of complex family dynamics, to spiritual energetics and to the larger background of generational and cultural patterns. Not only is she skilled at helping us to navigate our inner relationships, she is by far the most impactful guide I have ever encountered when it comes to navigating our outer relationships with our kiddos and others. She has become my go-to person when I need guidance in bringing forward boundaries in a compassionate and kind way. And her other superpower is making it all simple and playful! I feel so blessed to have her support in my life.

Lucie-Eve

After 10 years of struggles, doubts and anxiety and a total of 7 years of therapy, consultation, research and different courses/support (Sonali’s approach having been the most efficient for me) ... I’m glad to say I found an inner stability and confidence in my parenting. I am FINALLY proud of the mom I am. I now cherish my relationship with each of my kids. My family is way more harmonious than before and I feel equipped to meet the other challenges ahead. THANK YOU SONALI!! ...Sonali’s teachings ... are brilliant, insightful and refreshing.

Nancy, mom of 2, ages 20 and 17

I can’t say enough about the importance of Sonali’s work with parents -- gosh, every parent needs a course with her! I wish I had had the knowledge I have gained about parenting highly sensitive, high-energy kids when my kids were younger. It is life-changing for the parent and child.